Resources
Books/Essays:
Healing Sex by Staci Haines
Gift of Fear by Gavin de Becker
Allies in Healing by Laura Davis
I Never Called It Rape: The Ms. Report on Recognizing, Fighting, and Surviving Date and Acquaintance Rape- by Robin Warshaw
Playing on the Edge: Sadomasochism, Risk, and Intimacy by Staci Newmahr
Pornography and the Doubleness of Sex for Women
Websites/Blogs:
General:
The Line Campaign- empowering young leaders to end sexual violence
Abuse and BDSM- Kinky Little Girl
Domism: Role Essentialism and Sexism Intersectionality in the BDSM Scene- Yes Means Yes
On Creepiness:
A Field Guide to Creepy Dom- Gaystapo aka Asher Bauer
How Not to be Creepy- Pervocracy
The Creepy Naked Guy in the Dungeon- Maggie Mayhem
On Victim Blaming and Predators:
What a Victim Blaming World Looks Like to a Victim- BGG2WL
Meet the Predators- Yes Means Yes
Predatory Behaviour- Series by Kink in Motion
On What You Can Do/Say:
Negotiating Beyond the Norm- the Bureau of Erotic Discourse
Safe/Ward Guide for Community Members- Kitty Stryker
Safe/Ward Guide for Community Leaders- Kitty Stryker
“Why Does She Stay With That Jerk?”- Pervocracy
For country specific resources please see dedicated country pages:
Hi. I was referred to you by the NYC Consent Working Group on FetLife. Next week there is a local community leader (who happens to also be a predator, but I’m not going to get into that here) giving a lecture at a community college. He promotes some very bad ideas, such as not needing safe words, negotiation being unnecessary, and combining BDSM with alcohol and drug use. They are in the process of making up flyers, but said they won’t have any in time for this lecture. They told me you might have some materials that I could pass out. If you do, please email any files to the address listed and I’ll print them out to bring. It is an open event, all ages, and there will be some very impressionable young people there who will be getting some very bad advice. I’d like to do what I can to counter that.
Thanks.