Bigmouth Strikes Again

Meanwhile, Fetlife explodes as man who was banned from one community for burglary now stands accused of sexual assault in another community. GOOD THING WE CAN’T NAME NAMES! OTHERWISE IT’D BE A WITCH HUNT, HUH GUYS?
I notice that no one is fussing about false accusations in this particular case- is it because pillars of the community are speaking against him? Is it because he’s a man of colour and white people are the ones accusing him (supported in part by at least one of the commenters on his “mug shot”)? Is it just a question of enough accusations? Is there enough proof to make it seem valid?
Anyway.
I’ve made screenshots of that thread because I foresee it disappearing. It’s notable that people (pillars of the community type people) who supported Baku’s “we can’t possibly name names, that would lead to LYNCH MOBS” TOS want to name names now. And don’t get me started on white people tossing terms like “lynch mob” around when it comes to things like “being held accountable” in the first place. I guess it’s only a lynch mob if it’s a white dude being accused? I mean, look, this guy seems like a complete asshat, but it seems really fucking obvious that when a white dominant guy is an unethical rapey douchecanoe, the peanut gallery rallies behind him to defend his honor against those “bitches” who are “just jealous” or whatever. But when it’s a black dominant guy with similar accusations, suddenly no one’s speaking up.
Funny that.
Sometimes I wish I could gather up the whole community and smack the privilege and hypocrisy out of all of them in one full swoop.
I just really hope this is a kick in the pants to the community that this is exactly WHY being able to name names on our social media resource is potentially important.
Tags: BDSM, FetLife, kinky sex, media, politics, privilege, rape culture, victim blaming




I definitely saw some people saying “false accusation! innocent until proven guilty!” in threads on FL about that guy. The race angle is interesting though, I hadn’t thought about that. I should have.